Somewhere along the way, taking care of your own body got filed under "indulgent" instead of "maintenance." That framing does a disservice to something that's actually pretty basic self-care.
It's not a consolation prize
Solo time isn't just what happens when partnered time isn't available. It's its own thing, a way to understand your own body without having to explain or perform for anyone else in the room.
It actually helps partnered experiences too
Knowing what works for you, specifically, makes it much easier to communicate that to someone else later. You're not guessing together from zero.
There's no right frequency
Not daily, not weekly, not "enough." Whatever fits your life and doesn't come with guilt attached is the right amount.
Starting simply
You don't need a routine or a specific product to start, just permission to treat it as normal. If you do want a product, start with something simple and get familiar with it before adding complexity.
Our full range is sorted by stimulation type if you want a place to start looking.
